For many, staying sober requires being in constant contact with people like themselves. Or for people who do not live in areas where 12-step or Smart Recovery meetings are abundant. Gay sober people outside of urban areas often are looked upon as pariahs.
Some people simply don’t feel comfortable attending such meetings, so finding likeminded people in their community or wherever they may be can be extremely difficult. Beau Mann of Boston is the founder of Sober Grid, a brand new social media app that is a veritable Facebook for sober people. The idea of Sober Grid streamed into Mann’s consciousness while he was in Park City, Utah two years ago for the Sundance Film Festival. I wanted to be with the sober population.” Mann knew about the wild success of social media apps used by gay men to hook up for sex or dating, such as Grindr and Scruff.
Additionally, users cannot display photos unless their faces are in it – another way in which it is priding itself on being safe for users.
Similar to Tinder, the app also verifies people’s accounts through Facebook which Locke says was key to avoid those unwanted pornographic pictures.
“I have had a really struggling coming out session in the last 10 years, it has obviously been quite well-documented but I didn’t really know what I was doing and I struggled.
For me there was no platform for me to meet gay men,” he says.
It’s no secret that dating in the gay world is hard.
Gay people are still discriminated against the world over.